you’re sorry for mistiming the gift you’re giving to your friend or spouse, so you give it anyway. You time it so that your middle schooler will be out of the house to receive the gift instead of finding something inappropriate. It’s after 10 pm and you can tell by his voice on the other end of the phone that he would rather be doing anything else than opening presents under a tree. But no matter how much your conscience is tugging at you, isn’t this what Christmas is all about?
Well, if it’s been a few decades since last year’s Christmas Eve festivities with your friends and family, then most likely yes. But if it’s been less than a year since the last Christmas, then you’ve probably grown out of the old traditions and evolved into a new style of celebration. Instead of receiving an armful of gifts and other small trinkets, why not try something different? Instead of focusing on Christmas as a religious holiday celebrated by Christians, maybe you can focus on it as a secular tribute to good friends and family.
The idea behind the secular version is that you focus less on presents and more on spending time with your friends and family. If you’re already doing that this year then what’s the problem? The problem is that most people believe in an old saying: “It’s better to give than to receive.
Today, the modern world has adopted this saying, but it doesn’t have to be taken literally. If you learned anything from your past Christmas celebrations then you learned that there are two types of people in this world: givers and takers. And throughout the course of history, more people have fit into the taker category than the giver. This is why so many people believe in this phrase today.
But this saying is not true. It’s true if you base it on religious ideas. But if you were to base it on the secular world, then you’ll find that most people are more givers than takers. Instead of being passive recipients of the gifts we give them, we can become active givers who put their money where their mouth is and do something extra special for their friends and family so they remember them and thank them for the year past.
If you were to follow this philosophy, then you would be one of the very few people in the world who put others before themselves. This is why Christmas has evolved into its own secular holiday. Most people don’t realize it, but they’re actually celebrating the same thing that Christians celebrate when they say “Merry Christmas.” The only difference is that Christians are celebrating this festival because their religious beliefs tell them to do so.
Of course, this type of thinking does not apply to everyone. Some people like to think of Christmas as something much more than what it really is: a chance to spend time with family and friends while giving them gifts in order for them to give back the same respect. It’s a simple tradition that has been around for hundreds of years and it will continue to be around for the next few centuries. In fact, it’s been through a lot of changes during its history and it still remains one of the most popular holidays in America today.
So how can you celebrate Christmas in a way that is more secular than religious? Well, the first thing you have to do is realize what Christmas really means to you. If you want to keep religious values intact in your celebrations, then go right ahead. If you don’t care about religion at all and just want to have a good time with your friends and family, then that’s fine too. The only thing you have to ask yourself is if you really enjoy it.
If yes, then by all means celebrate Christmas in the way that makes the most sense to you. If you don’t, then it’s okay to change your mind about how you want to spend your holidays. It’s true that there are many opportunities throughout the year that allow us to give gifts out of generosity, but none of them are as special as Christmas. And this is where the problem arises.
If you’re not enjoying Christmas anymore, then don’t feel obligated to force yourself into having a good time when everything around you has changed so much since last year’s celebration. If you don’t want to go through holiday stress this year, then you do have the option of finding a new celebration for yourself. You don’t have to keep doing the same thing for the rest of your life. All you need to do is change your attitude towards Christmas and see if it works for you.
Here are some ways that might help or not:
- Decorate your house like no one else in your family has decorated it before. People who choose to decorate their houses like everyone else think that they’re allowing their children freedom to be creative with traditional decorations, but most people would fail at creating something different than what they saw elsewhere growing up. You can always ask someone online for help!
- Find out what other people are doing to celebrate Christmas this year and then try to do it with them. If you’re not sure how, then find something that you like and see if it’s the same thing they like. No one expects you to be traditional or even religious. You can celebrate Christmas by giving gifts or making memories with your children without saying a word about religion.
- Change your attitude towards this holiday because it’s your decision whether or not to do so, not anyone else’. Don’t feel like you have to put up with Christmas events that feel unnatural to you just because everyone else does them the same way. Or, if you want to do something religious, then do that instead of wasting your time with other activities that don’t matter to you. The worst thing that can happen is that you just take the holiday off and enjoy an extra day of rest without anyone fussing about it.
- The best Christmas activities are what you make them for yourself. You don’t have to go out and buy things or spend money on gifts for everyone else if it doesn’t make any sense to you. But if it does make sense, then by all means go out and spend money on presents for people who matter to you or give gifts like always but with a new attitude towards the holiday.